Existentialism says you are condemned to be free

Jean-Paul Sartre argued in Being and Nothingness (1943) that human existence precedes essence: unlike a table (designed for a purpose before it exists), humans exist first and define themselves through their choices. This freedom is not a gift but a burden — we cannot escape responsibility for who we become by blaming nature, upbringing, or God. 'We are condemned to be free.' Sartre's 'bad faith' describes the self-deception of pretending we have no choice — the waiter who plays the role of waiter so completely he loses his own sense of agency. Authenticity requires acknowledging, and acting from, radical freedom.

Source: Sartre, Being and Nothingness (1943)